Evlilik hayat\u0131nda \u00e7o\u011fu \u015fey m\u00fc\u015fterek, ancak beklentiler farkl\u0131 olabiliyor. Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7se de e\u015fler birbirlerine \u00f6nceliklerinin ne oldu\u011funu net bir \u015fekilde dile getiremeyebiliyor. \u00d6zellikle erkekler ne istediklerini anlatmakta, kendilerini ifade etmekte \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 \u00e7ekiyor.<\/p>\n

Evlilikte erke\u011fin kad\u0131ndan beklentileri genelde kad\u0131n\u0131n beklentilerinden daha fazlad\u0131r. \u0130kisi de ayn\u0131 i\u015fyerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131p yorulsa da erkek, eve girer girmez \u201c\u00e7ok yoruldum\u201d diye uzan\u0131r. Kad\u0131n\u0131n b\u00f6yle bir l\u00fcks\u00fc olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi \u00fcstelik erkek, ondan bir de g\u00fczel \u201cyemek\u201d bekleyebilir.<\/p>\n

Evin d\u00fczenli-tertipli, elbiselerinin temiz ve \u00fct\u00fcl\u00fc olmas\u0131n\u0131, hatta kimi erkek, i\u00e7ece\u011fi bir bardak suyu bile e\u015finin getirmesini bekler. Cep telefonunun nerede oldu\u011funu, g\u00f6zl\u00fcklerini, \u00e7oraplar\u0131n\u0131 nereye koydu\u011funu, araban\u0131n anahtar\u0131n\u0131n nereye b\u0131rak\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olabilece\u011fini h\u00fclasa buna benzer bir\u00e7ok \u015feyi kad\u0131ndan hep \u201chizmet\u201d olarak bekler.<\/p>\n

En \u00f6nemlisi ise, erkekler, annelerinden g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z \u201c\u015fefkat\u201d, \u201csevgi\u201d ve \u201cilgi\u201dyi e\u015flerinden de beklemektedir.<\/p>\n

Fakat annesinin \u201cAa! Burnun akm\u0131\u015f gel sileyim\u201d dedi\u011fi gibi; \u201cMendilini ald\u0131n m\u0131? Anahtar\u0131n, telefonun cebinde mi?\u201d vb. sorularla \u00e7ocuk gibi idare edilmek yerine, ayr\u0131ca fizik\u00ee g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in e\u015finin kendisini bir \u201ckahraman\u201d gibi g\u00f6rmesini de bekler.<\/p>\n

Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f itibar\u0131yla \u015fiddet, sald\u0131rganl\u0131k, sinirlilik, kabaday\u0131l\u0131k, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck ve kural tan\u0131mazl\u0131k \u00f6zelliklerine yatk\u0131n oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in erkekler, e\u015flerinin bu duygular\u0131n\u0131 kontrol alt\u0131na almas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacak \u201csakin, itidalli, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc, anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131, idareci\u201d olmas\u0131n\u0131 bekler.<\/p>\n

Aileyi idare ettikleri i\u00e7in \u00fclke idare eden kral gibi \u201csayg\u0131\u201d g\u00f6rmek ve asla \u201ctenkit edilmemek\u201d ister.<\/p>\n

Bu hay huy i\u00e7inde kad\u0131nlar\u0131n en \u00e7ok yak\u0131nd\u0131klar\u0131 \u015fey, \u201cE\u015fim ne ya\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fc ne de evlilik y\u0131ld\u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc hat\u0131rl\u0131yor. Demek art\u0131k beni sevmiyor!\u201d vehmine kap\u0131lmalar\u0131d\u0131r. Bu y\u00fczden erkekler e\u015flerinin pek kolay anla\u015f\u0131lamayan \u201csevgi dillerinin\u201d kolayca anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 bekler.<\/p>\n

E\u015finin \u201cSen bana ne hayat ya\u015fat\u0131yorsun?\u201d diye nank\u00f6rl\u00fck etmek yerine, kendisinin m\u00fckemmel bir baba ve e\u015f oldu\u011funu ifade eden \u201ctakdir\u201d s\u00f6zc\u00fckleri bekler.<\/p>\n

Maddi konuda kendisini s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya sokmay\u0131p, g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc a\u015fan a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 isteklerde bulunmayarak \u201caya\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yorgan\u0131na g\u00f6re uzatarak\u201d, \u201ciktisatl\u0131\u201d olmas\u0131n\u0131 bekler.<\/p>\n

E\u015flerinin soru kitab\u0131 de\u011fil \u201ccevap anahtar\u0131\u201d olmas\u0131n\u0131, \u201cd\u0131rd\u0131rlar\u0131yla\u201d kafas\u0131n\u0131 \u201c\u015fi\u015firmemesini\u201d \u00f6zellikle de \u201cg\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 silah\u201d olarak kullanmamas\u0131n\u0131 bekler.<\/p>\n

Bir \u015feye can\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda durgunla\u015f\u0131p d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyi tercih eder. \u015eayet e\u015fi tepesine dikilip: \u201cNe d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsun! Yoksa ba\u015fka biri mi var? Yoksa, bir yerlere para m\u0131 kapt\u0131rd\u0131n?\u201d gibi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131 ve \u201cg\u00fcven\u201d zedeleyici davran\u0131\u015flardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmas\u0131n\u0131 bekler.<\/p>\n

\u0130htiyac\u0131n\u0131 en fazla tatmin eden, a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131, sevgisini ve \u015fevkini payla\u015faca\u011f\u0131 ne\u015f\u2019ede ortak, elem ve kederde yard\u0131mc\u0131, s\u00fbri g\u00fczelli\u011finin yan\u0131nda zahiri arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 samimile\u015ftirecek \u201ciffet\u201d ve k\u00f6t\u00fc ahlaktan ar\u0131nm\u0131\u015f, \u201c\u00fcnsiyet\u201d edece\u011fi, iyi ge\u00e7inece\u011fi, ruhi imtizac\u0131 sa\u011flayacak \u201cm\u00fbnislik, itaat\u201d ve \u201cg\u00fczel ahl\u00e2k\u201d bekler.<\/p>\n

K\u0131sacas\u0131 erkek kad\u0131ndan, annesi kadar \u201c\u015fefkatli e\u015f\u201d, g\u00fcvenece\u011fi sad\u0131k bir \u201cdost\u201d, her \u015feyi payla\u015fabilecek \u201carkada\u015f\u201d, sohbet edebilece\u011fi kalbine kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k m\u00fckemmel bir \u201ckalp\u201d bekler.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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