Avustralyal\u0131 tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocuk psikolo\u011fu Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg\u2019e g\u00f6re helikopter ebeveynli\u011fin bir anlamda daha ileri bir versiyonu olan ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131kan her t\u00fcr zorlu\u011fu ortadan kald\u0131ran \u201ckar k\u00fcreyici\u201d ebeveyn nesli, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ylesine el \u00fcst\u00fcnde tuttu ki art\u0131k g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde ergenler aras\u0131nda salg\u0131n gibi yay\u0131lan bir zihinsel rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa neden oldular.<\/p>\n

Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg, X Ku\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ebeveynlerinin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok kolayla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, b\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 problemleri kendileri \u00e7\u00f6zemez ya da \u00f6nlerine \u00e7\u0131kan engelleri kendileri a\u015famaz hale geldiklerini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

\u201cBu ku\u015fa\u011f\u0131n ebeveynleri \u00f6nlerine \u00e7\u0131kan engelleri ortadan kald\u0131rarak, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca basit ve kolay bir hale getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar\u201d diyor Dr. Carr-Gregg.<\/p>\n

\u201cD\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bu hayranl\u0131k duyulacak bir \u015fey \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hepimiz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in en iyisini istiyoruz ama b\u00f6yle davranmak onlara diren\u00e7li olma konusunda hi\u00e7bir \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretmedi\u011fi gibi, evden ayr\u0131l\u0131p d\u00fcnyayla y\u00fczle\u015ftiklerinde \u00e7ok savunmas\u0131z olmalar\u0131na neden oluyor.\u201d<\/p>\n

Bir \u201ckar k\u00fcreyici\u201d ebeveyn, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n okula otob\u00fcse binerek ya da y\u00fcr\u00fcyerek gitmesini istemek yerine onlar\u0131 okul kap\u0131s\u0131na kadar b\u0131rak\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar\u0131na en son cihazlar\u0131 ve oyuncaklar\u0131 al\u0131yor, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 hi\u00e7 s\u00fcrece katmadan \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r y\u0131k\u0131yor, evi temizliyor, yemek ya da \u00fct\u00fc yap\u0131yorlar, k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131n ya da o\u011fullar\u0131n\u0131n ev \u00f6devlerini zaman\u0131nda yap\u0131p teslim etmesini sa\u011fl\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n

Dr. Carr-Gregg giderek yayg\u0131nla\u015fan bu ebevyn yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na yeterince zaman ay\u0131ramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen anne babalar\u0131n su\u00e7luluk duymas\u0131ndan kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

\u201cBu k\u0131smen de, ailelerin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclmesinden ve ebeveynlerin \u00e7evreden daha az destek almas\u0131ndan kaynaklan\u0131yor\u201d diyor Dr. Carr-Gregg.<\/p>\n

\u201cEbeveynlerin art\u0131k \u00e7ok az zaman\u0131 var, kendilerini su\u00e7lu hissettikleri i\u00e7in de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok fazla \u015f\u0131mart\u0131yorlar.\u201d<\/p>\n

Dr. Carr-Gregg\u2019e g\u00f6re, bunun tek sonucu, \u015f\u0131mart\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ve fazla \u00fcst\u00fcne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f bir ku\u015fak de\u011fil; gen\u00e7ler kendi problemleriyle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kmaktan aciz olduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in muazzam bir zihinsel sa\u011fl\u0131k kriziyle de kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kal\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n

Depresyon, kayg\u0131, madde ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve intihar oranlar\u0131n\u0131n olduk\u00e7a y\u00fcksek oldu\u011funu belirtiyor Dr. Carr-Gregg.<\/p>\n

\u201cGen\u00e7lerin d\u00f6rtte biri, okuldan mezun olmadan \u00f6nce ciddi bir psikolojik problem ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f olacak, bu da onlar\u0131n \u00e7ok zay\u0131f bir ku\u015fak oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBu asl\u0131nda \u00e7ok ironik bir durum \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bizler Birinci ve \u0130kinci D\u00fcnya Sava\u015flar\u0131 ile Vietnam Sava\u015f\u0131\u2019n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fck ama psikolojik bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bu \u00e7ocuklar, ebeveynlerinden ya da onlar\u0131n ebeveynlerinden daha az dayan\u0131kl\u0131lar.\u201d<\/p>\n

Dr. Carr-Gregg, ebeveynlerin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na zor i\u015fler yapt\u0131rarak onlar\u0131n daha b\u00fcy\u00fck zihinsel sa\u011fl\u0131k krizleriyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmamalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayabileceklerini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

\u201cTemel kural, \u2018\u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendilerinin yapabilecekleri i\u015fleri onlar\u0131n yerine yapmamak\u2019 olmal\u0131,\u201d diyor.<\/p>\n

Yani, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 okula giderken otob\u00fcse ya da bisiklete bindirmek veya toplu ta\u015f\u0131may\u0131 nas\u0131l kullanacaklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmek gerekiyor. Ayr\u0131ca \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n d\u00fczenli olarak yapt\u0131klar\u0131 ev i\u015flerinin olmas\u0131, teknoloji kullan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131n\u0131rlanmas\u0131 ve belli bir ya\u015fa geldiklerinde, paran\u0131n de\u011ferini anlayabilmeleri i\u00e7in yar\u0131 zamanl\u0131 bir i\u015fe girmeleri gerekiyor.<\/p>\n

\u201cOnlar\u0131 b\u00f6yle el \u00fcst\u00fcnde tutmay\u0131 b\u0131rakmal\u0131y\u0131z art\u0131k, bu durum ak\u0131l almaz boyutlara ula\u015ft\u0131.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cKonu\u015ftu\u011fum \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n pek \u00e7o\u011fu hayat\u0131nda yemek yapmam\u0131\u015f, hatta kendi yataklar\u0131n\u0131 bile kendileri yapm\u0131yor, odalar\u0131n\u0131 kendileri toplam\u0131yorlar. \u00c7ama\u015f\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 kendileri y\u0131kam\u0131yor, g\u00f6mleklerini kendileri \u00fct\u00fclemiyorlar.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201c\u00c7ocuklar camdan yap\u0131lmad\u0131lar, \u00e7atlamayacaklard\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u0130\u015fte \u201ckar k\u00fcreyici\u201d ebeveyn olmadan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za ilgi g\u00f6stermenizin yollar\u0131:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Uykular\u0131n\u0131 tam als\u0131nlar<\/strong><\/p>\n

Uyku en \u00f6nemli \u00f6\u011frenme ve ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma arac\u0131d\u0131r \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc yeterince uyumayan \u00e7ocuklar, \u201chuysuz ve memnuniyetsiz olur, iyi \u00f6\u011frenemez.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2022 Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir kahvalt\u0131 yaps\u0131nlar<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, okul \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n y\u00fczde onunun kahvalt\u0131 yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, y\u00fczde on be\u015finin ise sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z g\u0131dalar yedi\u011fini g\u00f6steriyor. Bu \u00e7ocuklara n\u00f6rolojik olarak bir \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretilemez.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Teknoloji kullan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 y\u00f6nlendirip s\u0131n\u0131rlay\u0131n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dr Carr-Gregg, ebeveynlerin \u00e7o\u011funun, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n internet ve video oyunlar\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlamak i\u00e7in kullanabilecekleri ara\u00e7lardan haberdar olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor. Ebeveynlerin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6devleri i\u00e7in ara\u015ft\u0131rma yapmak i\u00e7in internete girmelerine izin verirken dikkatlerini da\u011f\u0131tacak sosyal medya kullan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 engellemek i\u00e7in bu programlar\u0131 kullanmalar\u0131 gerekiyor.<\/p>\n

\u2022 \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131zla konu\u015fun. Birlikte, masada yemek yeyin.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ebeveynler, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckken onlarla birebir sohbet etmeye yeterince vakit ay\u0131rm\u0131yorlar. Birlikte sofraya oturmak ise akademik ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n artmas\u0131na ve dil geli\u015fimine katk\u0131 sa\u011flarken, alkol ve madde ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 koruma sunacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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