Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fk, \u00f6zellikle Asya toplumlar\u0131nda ya\u015fanan \u00e7ok garip ve bir o kadar da tehlikeli bir duygudur. Kad\u0131n ya da erkekten biri kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten ki\u015fiye \u00e7ok yo\u011fun duygularla ba\u011flan\u0131r ancak kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015fi ona ayn\u0131 duygular beslemedi\u011fi halde a\u015f\u0131k, a\u015fk\u0131nda \u0131srarc\u0131 olmakta ve b\u00fct\u00fcn benli\u011fi ile sevmeye devam etmektedir.
\nBaz\u0131 sosyal ileti\u015fim uzmanlar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fk\u0131 \u201ctedavi gerektiren bir hastal\u0131k\u201d olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrken baz\u0131 uzmanlar ise bu duyguyu \u201cki\u015finin kendisine itiraf edemedi\u011fi duygular\u0131n ba\u015fka bir \u015fekilde d\u0131\u015fa vurumu olarak de\u011ferlendirir.
\n\u015eimdi bilimsel boyutunu bir kenara b\u0131rakarak biz cool kad\u0131n ekibi olarak kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fklar\u0131n hemen hepsine bulunun 7 ortak noktadan bahsedece\u011fiz. Bu 7 madde ile \u201cKar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fk nedir?\u201dsorusuna cevap bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131z.<\/p>\n

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\n 1.B\u00fct\u00fcn kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fklar genellikle \u201cilk bak\u0131\u015fta a\u015fk\u201dt\u0131r<\/strong>
\nKar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fklar, birbirini iyi tan\u0131yan ve sosyal ortamda birlikte olan insanlar aras\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmez. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc b\u00fct\u00fcn benli\u011fi ile sevip \u201conda yok olmak\u201d i\u00e7in ki\u015finin hayali bir karakter yaratmas\u0131 gerekmektedir. Bu da ancak bir bak\u0131\u015fta a\u015f\u0131k olunan, yabanc\u0131 bir insanla ya\u015fan\u0131labilir.
\n2.Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fk ile seks d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi asla bir arada bulunmaz<\/strong>
\nSeks duygusu birbirine kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 hissedilen bir olgudur. Fakat kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkta a\u015f\u0131k, kar\u015f\u0131 cinse bu g\u00f6zle bakmaz. Sadece g\u00fczel g\u00fcnlerin hayalini kurar. Bu da sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir a\u015fk hayat\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi eksik bir ileti\u015fim tarz\u0131d\u0131r.
\n3.Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla sevenlerin mutlaka d\u00fc\u015fman kabul ettikleri bir \u201c\u00f6teki \u015fah\u0131s\u201d vard\u0131r<\/strong>
\nBirisini \u00e7ok sevip \u00f6tekinden \u00e7ok nefret etmek, bi\u00e7iminde geli\u015fen garip bir mant\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fklar\u0131n hemen hepsinde g\u00f6r\u00fclmektedir.
\nHatta bazen a\u015f\u0131k olunan ki\u015finin annesi ya da babas\u0131 kavu\u015fma \u00f6n\u00fcnde engel olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr ve ona d\u00fc\u015fman olunur. Baz\u0131 durumlarda ise ki\u015fi kendi ailesine d\u00f6ner ve onlar\u0131 bu a\u015fk\u0131n ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmemesinin sebebi olarak kabul eder.<\/p>\n

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4.Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fka tutulmu\u015f ki\u015fi ger\u00e7ek ya\u015fam\u0131 hakk\u0131nda abart\u0131l\u0131 hayaller kurar<\/strong>
\n\u201cBa\u015fka bir \u015fehirde bamba\u015fka bir ya\u015fam kuraca\u011f\u0131z.\u201d \u201cOnu krali\u00e7eler gibi ya\u015fataca\u011f\u0131m\u201d \u201cSeninle d\u00fcnyay\u0131 gezmek istiyorum.\u201d gibi c\u00fcmleler kuran a\u015f\u0131k asla kendisine \u015fu soruyu sormaz: \u201c B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 hangi parayla yapacaks\u0131n?\u201d<\/p>\n

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5.Dinler gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnseler dahi asl\u0131nda dinlemezler<\/strong>
\nKar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla seven ki\u015filer olumlu olumsuz hi\u00e7bir fikre a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011fillerdir. B\u00fcy\u00fcklerin \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlerini ciddiye almazlar. \u201cKimse beni anlam\u0131yor.\u201d \u201cNe biliyorlar ki?\u201d \u201cBenim g\u00f6z\u00fcmle bakabilselerdi\u2026\u201d \u201cK\u0131skan\u0131yorlar.\u201d gibi yarg\u0131larla kendilerini avuturlar.<\/p>\n

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6.M\u00fczik dinlemek kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla sevenlerin \u201ct\u00f6re\u201d kadar ciddiye ald\u0131klar\u0131 bir durumdur<\/strong>
\nOnlara g\u00f6re kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fk\u0131n terc\u00fcman\u0131d\u0131r m\u00fczik ve \u015fark\u0131lar. Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla seven ki\u015fi her t\u00fcr m\u00fczi\u011fi dinleyemez. Her sanat\u00e7\u0131 onun derdine terc\u00fcman olamaz. Standartlar bellidir: \u201cDinlenecek m\u00fczik y\u00fcre\u011fe dokunacak, ki\u015fiyi sarsacak, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6zlemini art\u0131racakt\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n

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7.Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla seven ki\u015fi yeni arkada\u015fl\u0131klara kapal\u0131d\u0131r. Sosyal ileti\u015fimi zay\u0131ft\u0131r<\/strong>
\nGittik\u00e7e i\u00e7e kapanma, eski arkada\u015flar\u0131 aramaz olma kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla seven insanlar\u0131n ortak \u00f6zellikleri aras\u0131ndad\u0131r. Hatta kendi aile bireyleri ile de eski samimi ili\u015fkileri yoktur.
\nKi\u015fi bir m\u00fcddet sonra kendisi gibi kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla seven bir \u201carkada\u015f\u201d bularak onunla \u201cdertle\u015fmek\u201d ister ve zaman\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc onunla ge\u00e7irilir.
\nKar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fkla seven ki\u015filer, spor yapmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131rlar, dernek ve kul\u00fcp gibi sosyal mekanlara gitmezler, politika ile ilgilenmezler ve e\u011fitim konusunda kendilerini geli\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in u\u011fra\u015fmazlar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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