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{"id":770,"date":"2015-08-11T08:48:41","date_gmt":"2015-08-11T08:48:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coolkadin.com\/ask-ve-baglanma-farkli-seylerdir.html"},"modified":"2015-08-11T08:48:41","modified_gmt":"2015-08-11T08:48:41","slug":"ask-ve-baglanma-farkli-seylerdir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/ask-ve-baglanma-farkli-seylerdir.html","title":{"rendered":"A\u015fk ve Ba\u011flanma Farkl\u0131 \u015eeyler Midir?"},"content":{"rendered":"

A\u015fk ve ba\u011flanma ikisinden ayr\u0131 \u015feyler de\u011fildir asl\u0131nda insan a\u015f\u0131k olunca ba\u011flan\u0131r, a\u015f\u0131k olunca sever.Ama \u00e7o\u011fu insana g\u00f6re bu durum olduk\u00e7a farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterir.
\nBa\u011flanma, bireyin kurdu\u011fu ilk ili\u015fki, yeni do\u011fan bak\u0131m veren anne ya da anne yerine ge\u00e7en, temel bak\u0131m veren bir bak\u0131c\u0131yla ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmektedir.<\/b><\/p>\n

Bu ili\u015fki, bebe\u011fin ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n zaman\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131 durumunda bebek, kendinin \u00f6nemli, de\u011ferli oldu\u011funu hissedecek, ayn\u0131 zamanda kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015fileri ve d\u00fcnyay\u0131 G\u00dcVEN\u0130L\u0130R OLUMLU bir yer olarak alg\u0131layacakt\u0131r. Yani \u00f6zg\u00fcvenin temelinin at\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131, depresyondan korunman\u0131n ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zamand\u0131r. Depresyondaki birey d\u00fcnyay\u0131-gelece\u011fi- \u00e7evreyi k\u00f6t\u00fc bir yer olarak alg\u0131lar.<\/p>\n

Eri\u015fkinlerde, \u201cD\u00f6rtl\u00fc Ba\u011flanma Modeli\u201d de G\u00dcVENL\u0130, SAPLANTILI, KAYITSIZ, KORKULU ba\u011flanma \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fclerinden s\u00f6zedilir.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanmada\u00a0 kendilerini de\u011ferli ve sevilebilir alg\u0131larken, di\u011fer insanlar\u0131da ula\u015f\u0131labilir ve duyarl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcrler. \u00d6zg\u00fcvenleri y\u00fcksektir yak\u0131nl\u0131k kurmaktan rahats\u0131z olmazlar. Otonomiye (ba\u015fka ki\u015fi ve durumdan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z karar verebilme\u00a0 yetisine) sahiptir.<\/p>\n

Saplant\u0131l\u0131 Ba\u011flanma<\/strong><\/p>\n

Kendilerini de\u011fersiz bulurken di\u011ferlerini olumlu de\u011ferlendirmektedir. Di\u011fer ki\u015filerin onay\u0131 ve kabul\u00fcn\u00fc kazanamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u0130li\u015fkilerle a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 me\u015fgul olurlar. Di\u011ferleriyle yak\u0131n ili\u015fkiler i\u00e7erisinde olmay\u0131 arzu etmekle beraber, onlarla yap\u0131\u015fkan bir tarzda ili\u015fki kurmak istediklerinden, di\u011ferlerini kendilerinden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rabilirler.<\/p>\n

Korkulu Ba\u011flanma<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Kendilerini de\u011fersiz alg\u0131lad\u0131klar\u0131 gibi, di\u011ferlerinide olumsuz de\u011ferlendirirler. Ki\u015fi, kendisinin sevilmedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc gibi, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n reddedece\u011fi ile ilgili kat\u0131 inan\u00e7lara sahiptir. Yak\u0131n ili\u015fki kurmaktan \u00e7ekinen ya da ili\u015fkilerinde fazla sorun ya\u015farlar.<\/p>\n

Kay\u0131ts\u0131z Ba\u011flanma<\/strong><\/p>\n

Kendilerini de\u011ferli ve sevilebilir olarak alg\u0131larken, di\u011ferlerine kar\u015f\u0131 olumsuz de\u011ferlendirmelere sahiptirler.Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framamak i\u00e7in ve reddedilmemek i\u00e7in yak\u0131n ili\u015fkilerden ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131r.Ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak olumlu benlik alg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 devam ettirmek istememektedirler.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk\u0131n tan\u0131m\u0131 i\u00e7in Freud, cinselli\u011fin y\u00fcceltilmesi, Fromm, ilgi, sorumluluk, sayg\u0131 ve anlay\u0131\u015f demi\u015flerdir. En g\u00fczel tan\u0131m\u0131 bence Tennov yapm\u0131\u015f; Bili\u015fsel etkinli\u011fi devre d\u0131\u015f\u0131 b\u0131rakan ge\u00e7ici ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k ve sevilen ki\u015fiye y\u00f6nelik bedenin verdi\u011fi duyarl\u0131 tepki, Kernberg’in tan\u0131m\u0131da g\u00fczel, varolu\u015fsal boyutta benlik s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n terkedilmesi, yani sevilen i\u00e7in kendinden vazge\u00e7mektir.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u0130nsanlarda ilginin daralmas\u0131d\u0131r. Ba\u015fka her\u015feyi bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131p, hayalde ger\u00e7ekte \u201conunla yat\u0131p onunla kalkmakt\u0131r\u201d se\u00e7ici bir odaklanma halidir yani, onun her hal ve davran\u0131\u015f s\u00f6zlerinin \u00fczerine b\u00fcy\u00fcte\u00e7 tutup a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6nemsemektir. \u0130stesen de akl\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131karamamakt\u0131r, r\u00fcyalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 h\u00fclyalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u00fcslemesidir. Onun unuttu\u011fu s\u00f6zleri tekrarlamakt\u0131r. \u00c7o\u015fkulu bir mani halidir. A\u015fk canl\u0131d\u0131r, heyecanl\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk iyi hissetmektir, etekleri u\u00e7u\u015fmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

G\u00f6rme ve alg\u0131 kusurudur. Onun patavats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 delikanl\u0131l\u0131k sanmakt\u0131r, fakir s\u00f6zc\u00fck da\u011farc\u0131\u011f\u0131 sebebi ile susmas\u0131n\u0131, i\u00e7e kapan\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilgelik sanmakt\u0131r. Densizli\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131ks\u00f6zl\u00fcl\u00fck, Antisosyal ve kanun s\u0131n\u0131r tan\u0131maz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131, cesaret ve \u00f6zg\u00fcven sahibi olmakla kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak demektir.<\/p>\n

Yani A\u015eK; HAYAL ED\u0130LEN ile GER\u00c7EK aras\u0131ndaki fark\u0131 alg\u0131lay\u0131ncaya kadar ge\u00e7en s\u00fcredir. \u201cZ\u00fclf\u00fcn z\u00fclf\u00fcn; diyerek \u015fiirler yazan \u015fair sonunda sevdi\u011fi ile evlenir ve bir vakit sonra derki; z\u00fclf\u00fcn z\u00fclf\u00fcn dedi\u011fim kafan\u0131n k\u0131l\u0131ym\u0131\u015f\u201d.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk; kavu\u015famamakt\u0131r, ka\u00e7an b\u00fcy\u00fck bal\u0131kt\u0131r. A\u015f\u0131k; kendinin sevilmedi\u011fini farketmeyip, umursamayan\u0131, ZOR A\u015eK, B\u00dcY\u00dcK A\u015eK sanmakt\u0131r, kendine cevap verip seveni ise ucuz bulmaktat\u0131r.<\/p>\n

STENBERG’e g\u00f6re; Yak\u0131nl\u0131k, tutku, ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k \u00f6\u011feleri olan bir kavramd\u0131r.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk t\u00fcrleri:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Be\u011fenme ve ho\u015flanma; yak\u0131n hissetme, s\u0131cakl\u0131k hissetme.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Tutkulu ve \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131nca A\u015fk; ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte a\u015fk bu gruptand\u0131r. Bir ki\u015fiyi ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte \u00e7ok seviyor veya nefret ediyorsan\u0131z durup d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn, bu durumun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015fi ile ilgisi yoktur. Alt beynimizin\u00a0 oyunu bu bize, sevdi\u011fimiz ya da korktu\u011fumuz \u015feyin her t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00f6zelli\u011fini GENELLE\u015eT\u0130R\u0130R. Bizim hayatta kalabilme refleximizin sonucu bu durum.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin: K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131\u00a0 bir kamyon h\u0131zla \u00fczerinize gelip size \u00e7arpmam\u0131\u015fsa bile, korkmu\u015fsan\u0131z uzun s\u00fcre trafikten, hareket eden her\u015feyden yada k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131dan korkars\u0131n\u0131z, oysa burada tek bir su\u00e7lu vard\u0131r o kamyonun \u015f\u00f6f\u00f6r\u00fcd\u00fcr. \u0130lk okul \u00f6\u011fretmeniniz \u00e7ok \u015fefkatli, sevecen size yenilikleri \u00f6\u011frenmenin yolunu a\u00e7m\u0131\u015fsa onun bu \u00f6zellikleri ile alakas\u0131 olmayan kocaman esmer ellerini uzun boyunu, geni\u015f y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcde g\u00fcven duygunuzun i\u00e7ine yerle\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n

30 sene sonrada olsa s\u0131rf \u00f6\u011fretmeninize fiziksel olarak benziyor diye d\u00fcnyada t\u00fcm \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fc para olan, emek h\u0131rs\u0131z\u0131, kendini veya ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 sevemeyen patronunuza hi\u00e7 haketmedi\u011fi halde g\u00fcvenip emek verip, sonu\u00e7ta emeklerinizin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k olarak alabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n

Ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde annesine benzer e\u015fleri olan erkekleri g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz \u00e7ok da sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir durum de\u011fildir. Ger\u00e7ekten sevmek ve sevi\u015fmek beyinle ve ki\u015filik \u00f6zellikleri ile olur. Nas\u0131l ilk kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmada giyim ve bak\u0131m ile kar\u015f\u0131lan\u0131p, ki\u015filik ak\u0131l, e\u011fitim, k\u00fclt\u00fcr ve g\u00f6rg\u00fcn\u00fczle u\u011furlan\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde A\u015eKTA ki\u015finin ile karar verip kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakinin ger\u00e7ek ki\u015filikte \u00f6zellikleri k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc, terbiyesi ile mutlu veya mutsuz olursunuz. En sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 a\u015fk, \u00f6nce iyi arkada\u015fl\u0131k \u00fczerine kurulan ve geli\u015fen a\u015fkt\u0131r. \u015eark\u0131lar ise hep fizik ve d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015ften bahseder bunu da alt beynimiz kodluyor. Erkek i\u00e7in ince bel geni\u015f kal\u00e7a do\u011furganl\u0131k \u00f6zelli\u011fi, d\u00fcmd\u00fcz bir kar\u0131n gebe olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n belirtisi, elde\u011fmemi\u015flik \u00e7ocuk benim mi? Korkusuna cevapt\u0131r. Kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in ise alt beynin \u00f6lc\u00fcs\u00fc, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bireyler d\u00fcnyaya getirmek ve onlar\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcrken g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve geni\u015f omuzlu erkek yiyecek avlayacak ve ta\u015f\u0131yacak, h\u0131zl\u0131 ko\u015facak uzun bacaklar\u0131 ile ve \u00e7ocu\u011funa yiyecek ta\u015f\u0131yacakt\u0131r. G\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuz alt beynimizde hala orman kanunu ge\u00e7erlidir.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n TOPLAR, erkekler avlan\u0131r eve besin ta\u015f\u0131r. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeyin alt beyni; t\u00fcm memelilerde var diye. Duygular\u0131m\u0131za y\u00f6n veriyor duygularda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceye y\u00f6n veriyor d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131za y\u00f6n veriyor. A\u00e7ken markete girip \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze geleni ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z olma d\u0131 m\u0131?<\/p>\n

Cinsel d\u00fcrt\u00fcleri de k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeyin. Gen\u00e7 fakir k\u00f6yl\u00fc kad\u0131n mecburiyetten ya\u015fl\u0131 ve empotansl\u0131 bir adamla evlendirilmi\u015f. Bir geldi \u201cAman \u00e7are doktor han\u0131m \u00f6yle uyar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f durumday\u0131m bunu yok et. Boyu bir kar\u0131\u015f kadar k\u0131sa minib\u00fcs \u015f\u00f6f\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc C\u00fcneyt Ark\u0131n m\u0131\u015f gibi bakarken buldum kendimi, i\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc oda farketti s\u0131r\u0131t\u0131yor, kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fe ait ayr\u0131 \u00f6zellik, erkekler G\u00d6REREK uyar\u0131l\u0131yor (kozmetik ve giyim sanayinin sebebi) kad\u0131nlarda DOKUNULARAK uyar\u0131l\u0131r. Ak\u0131ll\u0131 kad\u0131nlar\u0131n; yaln\u0131z bedenlerine dokunarak itici olabilirsiniz, ruhuna dokunmak gerekir \u00e7o\u011funlukla.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Bo\u015f A\u015fk (Ba\u011flanma): Bir ki\u015finin ba\u015fka birini sevdi\u011fine karar verip ba\u011flanmas\u0131d\u0131r. Yak\u0131nl\u0131k ve tutku bar\u0131nd\u0131rmamas\u0131 sebebi ile bo\u015f a\u015fk denir. \u0130li\u015fkinin ba\u015f\u0131nda veya sonunda olabilir.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Romantik A\u015fk: Romantik a\u015fkta yak\u0131nl\u0131k ve ba\u011flanma var tutku yoktur.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Arkada\u015f\u00e7a A\u015fk: Yak\u0131nl\u0131k ve ba\u011flanma var tutku yok.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Aptalca A\u015fk: Tan\u0131\u015f\u0131p k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede evlenirler\u00a0 Holywood tarz\u0131 a\u015fk. Tutku biter sadece be\u011fenme kal\u0131r s\u0131k\u0131l\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 M\u00fckemmel A\u015fk: (Tutku-yak\u0131nl\u0131k- ba\u011flanma) Bu a\u015fk\u0131 ya\u015famak ve elde tutmak daha zordur.<\/p>\n

8.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 A\u015fks\u0131zl\u0131k: Sorunlu ili\u015fki<\/p>\n

A\u015fk ve ba\u011flanmadaki, ba\u011flanma ili\u015fkisi, anne ve bebe\u011fin ili\u015fkisine \u00e7ok benzer.<\/p>\n

Anne ve bebek s\u00fcrekli birbirlerini g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f alan\u0131 i\u00e7inde olsun isterler. Birbirlerinin \u00f6ncelikle y\u00fcz\u00fcne, g\u00f6zlerine bakarlar. Can\u0131 ac\u0131yan bebe\u011fi annesi \u00f6perse ge\u00e7er, bir \u015feyi ke\u015ffeden bebek\u00a0 ilk annesine g\u00f6sterir. Bedenimizi ruhumuzu sadece annemize, sevgilimize ve hekimlere emanet ederiz.<\/p>\n

A\u015f\u0131klar da ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde davran\u0131rlar, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc ve sevin\u00e7lerini art\u0131k annelerinden \u00f6nce birbirlerine anlat\u0131rlar. \u00d6zel ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131\u00a0 olan bu ba\u011flanma ili\u015fkisi de tek ki\u015filiktir. \u0130nsanlar genelikle ba\u011fl\u0131 olduklar\u0131 ki\u015fi ile evlenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Ba\u011flanma tek tarafl\u0131 oldu\u011fu zaman ki\u015filik \u00fczerine en y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 durumlardan biridir. Aldat\u0131lma, stres \u00f6l\u00e7e\u011fi \u00fczerinde en y\u00fcksek puan alan stres\u00f6rd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

Seven g\u00fcne\u015f, sevilen ay gibidir. Seven; sevdi\u011finden gelen \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n kendi \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131 oldu\u011funu ay\u0131rt edemez. Ger\u00e7ekten seven; fedakard\u0131r ve sevdi\u011finin hayat\u0131na g\u00fc\u00e7 katar ve onu b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcr. T\u00fcm bu iyilik ve fedakarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 alan sevilen de devaml\u0131 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 birine ho\u015fnut davran\u0131r. Bu durum sevenin t\u00fckenmesine kadar devam eder. Sevilen a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n kafas\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131rsa affedebilir\u00a0 \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc annesi de onu vaktiyle d\u00f6ve seve b\u00fcy\u00fctm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Terkedilip aldat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde\u00a0 sevmeye devam edenlere \u015fa\u015f\u0131rmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n

On iki ya\u015f\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocuklar bile kendilerinden ho\u015flanan\u0131 hissederler. Ancak \u00e7ok e\u011fitimli ve iyi niyetli olup hislerini dinlemiyenler aldat\u0131labilirler ve ge\u00e7 farkederler.<\/p>\n

\u0130ki ki\u015fi size \u201ckocan\u0131 sar\u0131\u015f\u0131n bir k\u0131zla g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, \u015fu mekanda\u201d diyorsa \u201cne var bunda oras\u0131 bizim \u015firkette yak\u0131n, o da e\u015fimin sekreteri veya asistan\u0131\u201d demeyin. Mideniz bulan\u0131yorsa \u201cbende k\u0131skanc\u0131m, birazda\u00a0 \u015f\u00fcpheciyim paranoidim, hem benim yan\u0131mda o cahil, zevksiz kim oluyor ona e\u015fim burnunu silmez,\u201d demeyin. Ho\u015flanma, be\u011feni-a\u015fk ve ba\u011flanma ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesi i\u00e7in yeterince birlikte zaman ge\u00e7irirlerse \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 olabilir. Siz peri padi\u015fah\u0131n\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131 ya da bilmem hangi krall\u0131\u011f\u0131n prensi olsan\u0131z faydas\u0131zd\u0131r, at\u0131 alan \u00dcsk\u00fcdar’\u0131 \u00e7oktan ge\u00e7mi\u015ftir. Kendinizi yaksan\u0131z faydas\u0131zd\u0131r. E\u015finizin sevdice\u011fi ba\u015fkas\u0131yla nikahlan\u0131p evlense bile akl\u0131 onda kalacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk\u0131n alan\u0131 4 \u00a0metrekaredir (M2) derler. Baz\u0131 insanlar g\u00f6z\u00fcne yak\u0131n olan\u0131 sever ve ba\u011flan\u0131r, o y\u00fczden \u201ci\u015fyeri a\u015fklar\u0131\u201d \u00e7ok g\u00f6r\u00fclen bir durumdur, hazin sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 ile \u00e7ok\u00e7a kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. \u0130\u015f yeri a\u015fklar\u0131da menfaat \u00e7oktur. Sevilen i\u015ften kaytar\u0131r, patron gibi hareket eder, ge\u00e7 gelir, s\u00f6z sahibidir, kolay ve iyi kazan\u0131r, prestij sahibi olur, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr, birlikte g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fcklerinde mazeretleri vard\u0131r. \u0130\u015f toplant\u0131lar\u0131na birlikte gidiyorlard\u0131r vs.<\/p>\n

Bu durumda gidene \u201cg\u00fcle g\u00fcle ne yapal\u0131m\u201d demek kolay de\u011fildir. G\u00f6zleri a\u00e7\u0131k sevmek ve k\u00f6y\u00fc asla k\u00f6peksiz b\u0131rakmamak gerekir. Zira giden sadece sevdi\u011finiz de\u011fildir. \u0130nsanlara g\u00fcveniniz, senelerce yemeyip biriktirdikleriniz en \u00f6nemliside \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n annesiz ya da babas\u0131z b\u00fcy\u00fcmesidir. E\u015flerini aldatanlar, e\u015flerinden \u00e7ok \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na zarar verirler. Uzun vadede b\u00fcy\u00fcyen \u00e7ocuklar \u201canne veya babam bile g\u00fcvenilmez ise kime g\u00fcvenilebilir ki\u201d diyerek kar\u015f\u0131 cins ili\u015fkilerinde s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ve mutsuzluklar ya\u015farlar.<\/p>\n

\u00d6fke, kayg\u0131, korku, a\u015fk gibi duygular bize sormadan bazen kap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7alarlar. Di\u011fer memelilerde oldu\u011fu gibi bizim alt beynimizin fonksiyonudurlar. Kendimize zaman tan\u0131rsak ge\u00e7erler. Vicdan\u0131m\u0131z (s\u00fcperegomuz) bizi devaml\u0131 su\u00e7larsa, a\u015fk daha fazla alevlenir. Kendimizi su\u00e7lamadan ve haz duygunuzu spora, sanata verir ve o ki\u015fiyi g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fczden uzak tutarsak bir m\u00fcddet sonra ay\u0131l\u0131r\u0131z ve Ay\u0131n kara par\u00e7as\u0131 oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz gibi vaktiyle y\u0131ld\u0131z zannetti\u011fimiz ki\u015finin basit ki\u015fili\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Yine de\u011fil yenilik istiyorum diyorsan\u0131z \u00f6nce bo\u015fan\u0131n-ayr\u0131l\u0131n kendiniz olun, ondan sonra \u00f6nce friend sonra boy-girlfriend olun. Evlilik d\u00fczenini bozmadan yenisini yedekliyeyim \u00f6nce derken e\u015ftende, sevgilidende, olabilirsiniz. \u201cDimyata pirince gideyim derken evdeki bulgurdan olursunuz\u201d diyen atalar\u0131m\u0131z sadece bulgurdan m\u0131 bahsediyorlard\u0131?<\/p>\n

A\u015eKIN N\u00d6ROB\u0130YOLOJ\u0130S\u0130<\/p>\n

A\u015fkla iligili beynin b\u00f6l\u00fcmleri; Medulla \u0130NSSULA, ANTER\u0130OR C\u0130NGULAT G\u0130RUS, H\u0130POKAMPUS,\u00a0 prefrontal cortex, Nucleus Accumbens Strratumun baz\u0131 b\u00f6lgeler \u00f6d\u00fcl merkezi uyar\u0131r. Sonu\u00e7: Tan\u0131mlanmas\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7 mutluluk hali, of\u00f6ri, dopamin, serotinin oksitosin, vazopressin.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk k\u00f6rl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc: Dopamin sal\u0131n\u0131m\u0131 frontal, pariyetal, orta temporal korteks, amigdala aktivasyonun azalt\u0131r veya t\u00fcmden durdurur. Objektif alg\u0131laman\u0131z\u0131 yitirirsiniz. Dost yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 DUYUN.<\/p>\n

Amigdalan\u0131n aktivasyon kayb\u0131 sonucu korku merkezi durur ve A\u015eK CESUR\u00a0 YAPAR.<\/p>\n

FRONTAL CORTEX \u0130nhibisyonu sonucu bir s\u00fcreli\u011fine muhakeme ortadan kalkar mant\u0131kl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemez.<\/p>\n

Paryetal cortex, Temporal lobun bir k\u0131sm\u0131 ve frontal cortex olumsuz duygulardan sorumludur.<\/p>\n

\u201cOnu g\u00f6r\u00fcnce b\u00fct\u00fcn sinirim kayboluyor\u201d sebebi kendi ve kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015finin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinin, kendi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinden farkl\u0131 olabilece\u011finin fark\u0131na varmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk; madde ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na benzer.\u00a0 A\u015fk de\u011filde patolojik a\u015fk da sosyal i\u015flevselli\u011fini bozuyorsa tedavi edilmelidir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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