\u00c7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmenin ne kadar zor oldu\u011funu ve ne kadar ince bir \u00e7izgide oldu\u011funu hepimiz biliyoruz. Fakat bazen sevgimizi g\u00f6stermek, disiplinli olay\u0131m derken dozunu ka\u00e7\u0131rmak ve \u00f6d\u00fcl olarak nas\u0131l davran\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi konusunda \u00e7o\u011fu zaman zorlan\u0131yoruz. \u0130\u015fte b\u00fct\u00fcn bu konular hakk\u0131nda bilinmesi gerekenleri sizler i\u00e7in haz\u0131rlad\u0131k.<\/p>\n

Sevgi, Disiplin, \u00d6d\u00fcl ve Ceza<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmede dikkat edilecek noktalar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda ailenin sevgi, disiplin, \u00f6d\u00fcl ve ceza anlay\u0131\u015flar\u0131 gelir. \u0130nsan sevgi ile b\u00fcy\u00fcr olgunla\u015f\u0131r. \u0130nsan sevme yetene\u011fini sevilerek kazan\u0131r. Sevginin temel ta\u015f\u0131 kabul duygusudur. \u00c7ocu\u011fun tek dayana\u011f\u0131 anne-babas\u0131n\u0131n sevgisidir. Sevgi gereksinimi \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu s\u00fcrer ve s\u00fcrekli doyurulmas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fun g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, becerileri, ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 sevgi konusu olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk ko\u015fulsuz sevgi ister. \u00c7ocuk kendisiyle ge\u00e7irilen zamana e\u015f olarak sevilip sevilmedi\u011fini anlar. \u00c7ocu\u011fu sevmek, onunla b\u00fct\u00fcnle\u015fmek, baz\u0131 etkinliklerde onunla beraber olmak ve bir birey olarak onun ger\u00e7eklerini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Sevgiden yoksun b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f \u00e7ocukta \u00e7e\u015fitli uyum ve davran\u0131\u015f bozukluklar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir. Kendisini d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015f kabul eden \u00e7ocukta g\u00fcvensizlik duygusu geli\u015fir. Dengeli ve d\u00fczenli bir aile yap\u0131s\u0131 olu\u015fturmada disiplinin \u00f6nemi b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcr. Disiplin, ki\u015filerin i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 toplumun genel d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na uyum sa\u011flamak amac\u0131yla al\u0131nan \u00f6nlemlerin t\u00fcm\u00fc olarak tan\u0131mlanabilir. Aile i\u00e7inde etkili bir disiplin olu\u015fturabilmek i\u00e7in aile bireylerinin \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 bilmeleri gerekir. Disiplin ki\u015finin kendisiyle ba\u015flar. Disiplinin amac\u0131 d\u00fczenli, tutarl\u0131 ve sorumlu davran\u0131\u015f al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131 kazand\u0131rmak olmal\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc ve disiplin eksikli\u011fi \u00e7ocukta bencillik ve anti-sosyal davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 otoriter ve bask\u0131l\u0131 kat\u0131 disiplin de anne-babaya kar\u015f\u0131 korku, nefret ve \u00f6fke duygular\u0131n\u0131n olu\u015fmas\u0131na \u00e7ocu\u011fun ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 ve isyank\u00e2r olmas\u0131na neden olabilir.<\/p>\n

Ger\u00e7ek anlamda disiplin olu\u015fturabilmek i\u00e7in yerinde kullan\u0131lan \u00f6d\u00fcl ve ceza b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r. \u00d6d\u00fcl istendik davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n peki\u015fmesi amac\u0131yla kullan\u0131lan ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimine katk\u0131 sa\u011flayan bir y\u00f6ntemdir. \u00d6d\u00fcl \u00e7ocu\u011fa hak etti\u011fi zaman verilmelidir. G\u00f6revini yapan \u00e7ocuk gereksiz yere \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmemelidir. G\u00fczel bir s\u00f6z, bir \u00f6p\u00fcc\u00fck, \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u00f6vme gibi \u00f6d\u00fcller s\u0131kl\u0131kla uygulanmal\u0131, maddi de\u011feri olan \u00f6d\u00fcllere \u00e7ok s\u0131k ba\u015fvurulmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Anne-baban\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fu takdir ve te\u015fvik etmeleri onun i\u00e7in en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6d\u00fcld\u00fcr. \u00c7ocu\u011fun hangi davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 \u00f6d\u00fcllendi\u011fini bilmesi de e\u011fitsel a\u00e7\u0131dan \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n

Ceza ise istenmeyen davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n tekrar edilmesini engellemek amac\u0131yla kullan\u0131lan bir e\u011fitim y\u00f6ntemidir. \u00c7ocuk, ailenin ve toplumun kurallar\u0131na ayk\u0131r\u0131 davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ceza almal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk uymas\u0131 gereken kurallar\u0131 bilmeli ve bu kurallar uygulan\u0131rken \u00e7ocu\u011fa tart\u0131\u015fabilme hakk\u0131n da verilmelidir. Onur k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini savunmas\u0131na f\u0131rsat tan\u0131madan verilen ceza, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6zg\u00fcvenini sarsar ve ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 engeller. Su\u00e7 ve ceza aras\u0131nda denge olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ceza kabul edilebilir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclerde ve \u00e7ocu\u011fa yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 olumsuz davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcrecek nitelikte olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Baz\u0131 ailelerde dayak bir ceza y\u00f6ntemi olarak kullan\u0131l\u0131r. Dayak istenmeyen davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n artmas\u0131na neden olur. Dayak \u00e7ocu\u011fun anne-babas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 korku, \u00f6fke ve k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7inde olmas\u0131na neden olur. Sald\u0131rgan olmay\u0131, sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 \u015fiddet yoluyla \u00e7\u00f6zmeyi \u00f6\u011fretir. Dayak yiyen \u00e7ocukta olu\u015fmas\u0131 gereken i\u00e7 disiplin bozularak zay\u0131f vicdan ve ahlak geli\u015fimine yol a\u00e7ar. \u00d6d\u00fcl ve cezan\u0131n kullan\u0131lmas\u0131nda e\u015fler tutarl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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