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\u00c7ocu\u011fun sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir geli\u015fim g\u00f6stermesi ve sa\u011flam birki\u015filik kazanmas\u0131 i\u00e7in ailede d\u00fczenli bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imi s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclmelidir. Aile i\u00e7inde e\u015fler aras\u0131nda zaman zaman ya\u015fanan kavga ve tart\u0131\u015fmalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olumsuz y\u00f6nde etkiler. \u00d6zellikle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardaki \u00e7ocuklar anne baba aras\u0131nda s\u00fcregiden tart\u0131\u015fmalara s\u0131kl\u0131kla tan\u0131k oluyorlarsa d\u0131\u015fa vuramad\u0131klar\u0131 duygular\u0131; anne baban\u0131n tart\u0131\u015fma sonucunda ayr\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 ve kendilerinin ortada kalaca\u011f\u0131 duygusudur. Bunun yan\u0131 s\u0131ra \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fu kavgalara kendilerinin neden oldu\u011fu duygusuna kap\u0131larak kendilerini su\u00e7lama e\u011filimine girerler.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuk sevgiyi, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcy\u00fc de, \u00f6fkeyi ve k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 da aile i\u00e7inde anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131 model alarak \u00f6\u011frenir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla \u00e7ocu\u011fun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 mekanda ebeveynler taraf\u0131ndan hangi duygular ve davran\u0131\u015flar daha \u00e7ok sergileniyorsa \u00e7ocuk bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6rerek ve taklit ederek yeti\u015fir ve ki\u015fili\u011fini olu\u015fturur. S\u00fcrekli \u00f6fkeli olan ve ev i\u00e7inde s\u00fcrekli kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 birbirine ba\u011f\u0131ran anne baba ile birlikte b\u00fcy\u00fcyen bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa aile \u00f6fkeli olmamay\u0131, her olaya ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcyle bakmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretemez. Aile kavgalar\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca \u00e7ocu\u011fun bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir mekanda yapmal\u0131 ancak bu kavgalar\u0131 s\u00fcrekli hale getirmemelidir. \u00d6nemli olan anne baba aras\u0131nda tart\u0131\u015fma olsa da bunun uzla\u015fmayla sona erdirilmesidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc anne baban\u0131n ayr\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 ve ortada kalaca\u011f\u0131 endi\u015fesini ya\u015fayan \u00e7ocuk ili\u015fkilerinin bozulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve aile i\u00e7inde sevginin azalmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamal\u0131d\u0131r. Ancak her tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n kavgaya ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 a\u011f\u0131r hakaretlere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc evlerde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ku\u015fkusuz olumsuz y\u00f6nde etkilenir. S\u0131k s\u0131k anne babas\u0131n\u0131n kavga etti\u011fine tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuk \u00f6zg\u00fcven duygusunu da kazanamam\u0131\u015f olur.<\/p>\n

Ebeveynler aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma bebeklikten ba\u015flayarak, ergenli\u011fe kadar her ya\u015fta \u00e7ocu\u011fu etkiler. Ancak farkl\u0131 ya\u015f gruplar\u0131n\u0131n tepkileri de farkl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar anne babalar\u0131 aras\u0131ndaki ba\u011fr\u0131\u015fmalara genellikle oday\u0131 terk etme, kulaklar\u0131n\u0131 kapama, a\u011flama, donakalma, \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya araya girerek ve s\u00f6zel tepkilerle m\u00fcdahale ederek \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma gibi tepkiler verebilir. Ergenler s\u00f6zel olarak m\u00fcdahale edebilecekleri gibi, kendi odas\u0131na kapan\u0131p m\u00fczi\u011fin sesini sonuna kadar a\u00e7ma gibi ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma y\u00f6ntemleri bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Bebeklikte ve okul \u00f6ncesi \u00e7ocuklarda ise tepkiler a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 hareketlilik, g\u00fclme, \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k atma gibi duygusal tepkiler \u015feklinde olabilir.<\/p>\n

Anne baba kavgalar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerinde derin izler b\u0131rak\u0131r. Anne babalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n tart\u0131\u015fmalardan olumsuz etkilendi\u011fini bildikleri halde kavga etmeyi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmekte, kavga etmeden \u00f6nce \u00e7ocu\u011fu odas\u0131na g\u00f6ndermek gibi \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yollar\u0131 bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131r. Ancak g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc bir kavgaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fen kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 \u00f6fke aktar\u0131m\u0131ndan \u00e7ocuk uzak tutulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131lsa bile duymamas\u0131na imkan yoktur. Anne ve babalar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6fkeli, k\u0131zg\u0131n ve \u00fczg\u00fcn hallerine tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in bu durum olduk\u00e7a sars\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Ev i\u00e7erisinde tart\u0131\u015fma ve kavgaya \u015fahit olmayan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n insanlara g\u00fcvenme, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 sevme ve kendi ba\u015f\u0131na i\u015f yapabilme yetileri istenen d\u00fczeyde geli\u015fim g\u00f6sterirken, kavgan\u0131n eksik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir evde b\u00fcy\u00fcyen \u00e7ocuklarda g\u00f6r\u00fclen sorunlar az\u0131msanmayacak kadar \u00e7oktur. \u0130lk ba\u015fta okul ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, ders notlar\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fc\u015f olarak kendini g\u00f6steren sorunlara davran\u0131\u015fsal pek \u00e7ok sorun eklenir. Okulda kavgac\u0131 olabilir ve uyumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar sergileyebilir. Ani i\u00e7e kapanma g\u00f6zlenebilir. Uyku bozukluklar\u0131 ba\u015flayabilir, anne baba yan\u0131nda yatma iste\u011fi olu\u015fabilir. Korku ve alt \u0131slatma gibi bozukluklar geli\u015febilir. Anne babadan yeterli sevgi alamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Devam eden kavgalardan ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 tedirginlik ve kayg\u0131 depresyona dahi s\u00fcr\u00fckleyebilir.<\/p>\n

B\u00fct\u00fcn bu sorunlar\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra, \u00e7ocu\u011fun gelecek ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131 da anne baba kavgalar\u0131 sonucunda \u015fekil al\u0131r. Aile i\u00e7inde s\u00fcrekli kavga ve \u015fiddete tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuklar yeti\u015fkinli\u011fe ula\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131nda baz\u0131 ki\u015filik bozukluklar\u0131 g\u00f6sterebilirler. Sald\u0131rgan ve \u00f6fkeli davran\u0131\u015flar, evden ka\u00e7ma, yalan s\u00f6yleme, anne ve babadan kopma, aile bireyleri aras\u0131ndaki ba\u011flar\u0131n azalmas\u0131, yalan s\u00f6yleme, evden ka\u00e7ma gibi sorunlar g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir. Ayr\u0131ca evlenmeye kar\u015f\u0131 olumsuz duygular geli\u015ftirebilir, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z evlilikler yapabilir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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