Y\u00fczy\u0131llardan beri s\u00fcre gelen gelin kaynana \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 ile her d\u00f6nemde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. \u0130ster kentsel b\u00f6lgelerde olsun ister k\u0131rsal b\u00f6lgelerde olsun bu durum de\u011fi\u015fmez ve her kesime hitap eden bir psikolojik \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Kayseri’deki K\u00fcltepe-Kani\u015f Karum \u00f6ren yerinde yap\u0131lan kaz\u0131larda bulunan tabletlerde ise kad\u0131n haklar\u0131, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n evlat edinilmesi, be\u015fik kertmesi, gelinin kay\u0131nvalidesinden \u015fikayet etmesi gibi pek \u00e7ok konular i\u015fleniyor. Burada bulunan kaz\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 sonucu gelin \u2013 kay\u0131nvalide \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131n (M.\u00d6) 4 binli y\u0131llara dayand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n kan\u0131t\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Her ne olursa olsun anne ve erkek \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fki bir k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funa g\u00f6re daha farkl\u0131d\u0131r. Anne ile o\u011fulun farkl\u0131 cinste olmas\u0131 aralar\u0131ndaki \u00e7ekim g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc art\u0131rarak daha ba\u011fl\u0131 sevgi olu\u015fturur.\u00a0 Bu durumun evlendikten sonra da devam edece\u011fini sanan erkek annesi ise gelini ile \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya ge\u00e7erek, huzuru ka\u00e7\u0131ran olabilir. Yada yeni evlenen gelin, kay\u0131nvalidesine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6n yarg\u0131l\u0131 davranarak hem kendini hem de kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rtabilir.<\/p>\n

Gelin-kay\u0131nvalide aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7eki\u015fmelerin belli ba\u015fl\u0131 sebeplerini \u015f\u00f6yle s\u0131ralayal\u0131m: \u00d6nyarg\u0131lar, al\u0131nganl\u0131k, ki\u015filik farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131, gelin ve\u00a0kaynanan\u0131n haddini a\u015fmas\u0131, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 y\u00f6netme iste\u011fi, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, ruhsal hastal\u0131klar, bencillik, cahillik.<\/p>\n

Peki bu durum nereye kadar devam edecek derseniz \u201cher \u015feyin ilac\u0131 zaman\u201d diye klasik bir cevap verece\u011fiz. Zamanla birbirini tan\u0131maya ve al\u0131\u015fmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan aile bireyleri bir \u00e7ok konuda da daha anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 ve kabullenici olacaklard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Burada as\u0131l g\u00f6rev erkek evlada d\u00fc\u015fmektedir. Hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde ne annesine ne de e\u015fine taraf \u00e7ekmemeli, onlarla konu\u015furken ikinizde yeti\u015fkin insanlars\u0131n\u0131z ve aran\u0131zdaki sorunlar\u0131n benimle ilgisi yok demeyi bilmesi laz\u0131m. Ne anneyi nede e\u015fini korurcas\u0131na bir tutum da bulunmamal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

Zamanla birbirini tan\u0131yan ve kabullenen gelin ve kaynana ilerleyen d\u00f6nemlerde daha mutlu olacaklard\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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