A\u015f\u0131k olan ki\u015fi mutlu olur, pozitif olur ancak ki\u015fi a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131 kaybetti\u011fi anda bi anda negatifle\u015fip depresyona kadar gidebilir. A\u015fkta h\u00fcsrana u\u011frayan ki\u015filerin ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sistemi d\u00fc\u015fer ve bir tak\u0131m hastal\u0131klara yakalanma risti y\u00fckselir.<\/strong> <\/em> A\u015f\u0131k…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[128],"tags":[550,540,571,178,143,198,528],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1963"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1963"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1963\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1963"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1963"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coolkadin.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1963"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n\u0130stanbul T\u0131p Fak\u00fcltesi Psikiyatri Ana Bilim Dal\u0131 \u00d6\u011fretim \u00dcyesi ve Humanite Psikiyatri T\u0131p Merkezi Direkt\u00f6r\u00fc Prof. Dr. Sedat \u00d6zkan’\u0131n verdi\u011fi bilgilere g\u00f6re, a\u015fk insan\u0131n sevebilme ve \u00fcretme kapasitesidir, ego i\u015flevidir, psikolojik yat\u0131r\u0131md\u0131r. Sevgi \u00fcreterek, sevilmek gereksinimini doyurma s\u00fcrecidir. \u0130nsano\u011flunun do\u011fumu ile ba\u015flar, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcrece devam eder, \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra bile varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcr. A\u015fk insan\u0131n her h\u00fccresinde varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 devam ettirir, t\u00fcm canl\u0131lar\u0131n gereksinimidir. Di\u011fer canl\u0131larda daha \u00e7ok somut ve fizyolojik bir i\u015flev gibidir. \u0130nsanda ise biyolojik olman\u0131n \u00f6tesinde t\u00fcm beyinsel kapasitesini, psikolojik donan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 ve sosyal payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 i\u00e7eren bir eylemdir.
\nSevgi, en geni\u015f duygusal ya\u015fant\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk bunun tercih edilen alt k\u0131sm\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk, sevginin dorukta ya\u015fanmas\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131 cinse hissedilen duygularla s\u0131n\u0131rland\u0131rmamal\u0131y\u0131z. A\u015fk evrensel olarak sevgi \u00fcretimini ama\u00e7lar. Tanr\u0131, do\u011fa ve insan sevgisi de bu duygunun i\u00e7indedir.
\nMutlu Eder, Agresifli\u011fi Azalt\u0131r
\nA\u015f\u0131k olan ki\u015fi \u00f6\u011frenmeye daha a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131r. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmaktan keyif al\u0131r, daha co\u015fkuludur.
\nSa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 a\u015fk ki\u015fiyi mutlu eder, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 a\u015fk ise depresif yapar. A\u015fk agresifli\u011fi azalt\u0131r, ki\u015fi daha ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcd\u00fcr. A\u015f\u0131k olan ki\u015fi \u00e7evresine bask\u0131 ve \u00f6fke sa\u00e7maz, tam tersi pozitif ve uyumludur. Mutlu olan ki\u015fi, \u00e7evresindekilere kar\u015f\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 olmaz.
\nA\u015fk, v\u00fccutta aralar\u0131nda endorfinin de bulundu\u011fu mutluluk hormonlar\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131r. A\u015fk beyindeki kimyasal i\u015fleyi\u015fi canland\u0131ran, h\u0131zland\u0131ran, aktive eden en temel duygudur. Beyin ne kadar donan\u0131ml\u0131 ise a\u015fk hayat\u0131 da, o kadar iyidir. Ki\u015finin beyni k\u0131s\u0131r, donuk, payla\u015f\u0131ma a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011fil ise a\u015fk hayat\u0131 da o kadar k\u0131s\u0131rd\u0131r. A\u015fk zihni a\u00e7ar, adeta hormonlar\u0131 canland\u0131r\u0131r.
\nBeyin Kabu\u011fu De\u011fi\u015fir
\nA\u015f\u0131k beyin daha \u00fcretken daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131d\u0131r. Beynin en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 vitamini; a\u015fk ve sevgidir. A\u015fk, beyin kabu\u011funun i\u015flevini h\u0131zland\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sistemi \u00fczerinde de olumlu etkileri vard\u0131r, direnci art\u0131r\u0131r. Sevdi\u011fini kaybedenlerde ise tam tersi olur, v\u00fccut direncinin azalmas\u0131yla hastal\u0131klara yakalanma riski artar.
\n\u0130lk G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte A\u015fk…
\nKad\u0131nda erkeklere oranla ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte etkilenme daha \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fcd\u00fcr. A\u015fk akl\u0131na uymuyorsa, sorun olacakt\u0131r. E\u011fer ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte etkilendi\u011fi ki\u015fiyle zamanla tan\u0131d\u0131k\u00e7a mutlu de\u011filse sorun vard\u0131r. A\u015f\u0131k olunan ki\u015fiyi de\u011ferlendirirken di\u011fer sevgi nesneleri ile ili\u015fkileri de dikkate al\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. Mesleki anlamda ahlaki de\u011ferlerden yoksunsa, toplumsal ahlak\u0131nda zafiyet var ise a\u015fk hayat\u0131nda da benzer sorunlar ya\u015fayacakt\u0131r.
\n\u0130\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcsel ve D\u00fcrt\u00fcseldir
\nA\u015fk, i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcsel ve d\u00fcrt\u00fcsel bir y\u00f6nelimdir. T\u00fcm canl\u0131lar\u0131n gereksinimidir. A\u015fk, biyolojik zeminde beyinsel t\u00fcm deneyimlerini, donan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 ve beklentilerini aktive eder. Ku\u015fkusuz sosyal ortam da olduk\u00e7a etkili. Ki\u015fi ne kadar derin ve yarat\u0131c\u0131 ise o kadar derin bir a\u015fk ya\u015f\u0131yordur. Cinsellik t\u00fcm canl\u0131lar i\u00e7in biyolojik gereksinimdir. \u0130nsanda ise a\u015fk ve sevginin ifade tarzlar\u0131ndan biridir. A\u015fk, sevgi ve payla\u015f\u0131m kat\u0131l\u0131rsa insani olur.
\nSorumluluk Gerektirir
\nA\u015fk bir ili\u015fkidir, tercihtir ve sorumluluktur. Duygu yo\u011funlu\u011fu ya\u015famak ki\u015finin a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelmez. A\u015fk daha \u00e7ok ya\u015fam d\u00f6nemlerinde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. Ergenlik d\u00f6nemi, yeti\u015fkinlik d\u00f6neminde 20’li ya\u015flar, orta ya\u015fta 35-40’l\u0131 ya\u015flar, 50-60’l\u0131 ya\u015flar… Ya\u015fam d\u00f6nemlerinde ki\u015fi hayat\u0131n\u0131, mutluluk aray\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 sorgular. Zamanla \u00e7iftlerin tercihleri de\u011fi\u015fmi\u015fse, ili\u015fkide sorunlar ba\u015flar. Kimi \u00e7iftler bu sorunlar\u0131 a\u015farken, kimi yeni mutluluk aray\u0131\u015flar\u0131na y\u00f6nelir.
\nA\u015fk, Sevmenin Uzant\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r
\nD\u00fcnyay\u0131 ve kendini seven insanlar daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 a\u015f\u0131k olur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc a\u015fk kendini sevmenin uzant\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. D\u00fcnyay\u0131 sevemiyorsa, b\u00fct\u00fcn sevgi gereksinimini tek ki\u015fiye aktarmas\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. Bu durum hastal\u0131k olarak tan\u0131mlanabilir. Mesela; bebekle annesi aras\u0131nda ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 ili\u015fki vard\u0131r. Bebe\u011fin tek sevgi nesnesi annesidir, ondan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z ya\u015fayamaz.
\nKi\u015finin T\u00fcm Hayat\u0131n\u0131 Etkiler
\nProf. Dr. Sedat \u00d6zkan; \u201cA\u015fk\u0131n i\u00e7inde s\u00f6zel olmayan ipu\u00e7lar\u0131 da vard\u0131r. G\u00fcl\u00fcmsemesi, oturu\u015fu, a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu ki\u015fi yan\u0131na gelince ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131, nereye bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 da bize ipucu verir. Ve ki\u015filik yap\u0131s\u0131na g\u00f6re bu davran\u0131\u015flar da de\u011fi\u015fir. A\u015f\u0131k olan ve a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu ki\u015fiye sayg\u0131 duyanlar; onu incitmekten ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131r, dikkatli ve \u00f6zenlidir. Psikolojik ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 fark eder. A\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu ki\u015fiyi her hali ile sevmi\u015ftir. \u00d6nce sevip sonra de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaz. Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakilere hi\u00e7bir konuda dayatma yapmaz, ona tercih sunar. Bu davran\u0131\u015flar a\u015fk\u0131n en iyi g\u00f6stergesidir\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"