Sevgilinizin de\u011fi\u015ftirmek istedi\u011finiz baz\u0131 huylar\u0131 m\u0131 var? Vard\u0131r vard\u0131r. Ve bunu isteyen emin olun ki sadece siz de\u011filsiniz. O nedenle s\u0131rf bunun i\u00e7in sevginizi sorgulaman\u0131za l\u00fczum yok. Baz\u0131 ki\u015filik \u00f6zelliklerinin zamanla de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla insan asla de\u011fi\u015fmez, demek pek do\u011fru de\u011fil. Yaln\u0131zca de\u011fi\u015fime kuvvetli diren\u00e7 g\u00f6sterebilir insan. Bu direnci k\u0131rman\u0131n yolu ise istikrar, sab\u0131r ve sevgi. Bu yaz\u0131m\u0131zda k\u0131skan\u00e7 sevgililerinden rahats\u0131z olanlar i\u00e7in birka\u00e7 ipucu verece\u011fiz. Haydi bakal\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Baz\u0131 kad\u0131nlar \u201cK\u0131skanmayan erkek mi olur?\u201d derken baz\u0131lar\u0131 da \u201cK\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k bir hastal\u0131kt\u0131r.\u201d diyebiliyor. \u0130kisi de yanl\u0131\u015f. \u00d6nce kad\u0131n \u2013 erkek ili\u015fkilerinde k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k kavram\u0131n\u0131 ele almak gerekiyor. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131ktan anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z sizi her \u00f6n\u00fcne gelenden sak\u0131nmas\u0131 ve ho\u015funa gitmeyen her davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in kaba bir tav\u0131r sergilemesiyse bu k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k de\u011fil size ve kendisine olan g\u00fcvensizli\u011fidir. \u201cBeni sevdi\u011fi i\u00e7in yap\u0131yor.\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyin yani: seven insan k\u0131rmamak i\u00e7in u\u011fra\u015f\u0131r. Sevgiyi g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in muhte\u015fem incelikte yollar varken neden kavga \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131 tercih etsin ki seven adam?<\/p>\n

Yani diyoruz ki, k\u0131skand\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in sizi devaml\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layan, devaml\u0131 kavga \u00e7\u0131karan, kimseyle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmenize m\u00fcsaade etmeyen bir adam varsa kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda ya kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za al\u0131n adamak\u0131ll\u0131 konu\u015fun ve bu tav\u0131rlar\u0131ndan rahats\u0131z oldu\u011funuzu dile getirin ya da bakt\u0131n\u0131z de\u011fi\u015fece\u011fi yok, bitirin gitsin. Zira ileride bu k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k ad\u0131 alt\u0131ndaki magandal\u0131k size ciddi zararlar verebilir.<\/p>\n

Bir de tatl\u0131 k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k var. Buna ise \u201cbenimseme\u201d diyebiliriz. Sadece k\u0131yafetinize kar\u0131\u015fan bir adam de\u011fil de ger\u00e7ekten sizin en iyi olman\u0131z i\u00e7in hassas davran\u0131p size mant\u0131kl\u0131 uyar\u0131larda bulunan bir adam varsa kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda i\u015fte ona sar\u0131l\u0131n. Belki tek \u015fikayetiniz, uyar\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 tatl\u0131 bir dille yapm\u0131yor olu\u015fudur. Bunun i\u00e7in de onu kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za al\u0131p, \u201cSenin fikirlerine \u00f6nem veriyorum, yaln\u0131zca \u00fcslubun beni biraz geriyor. \u00dcslubunu biraz daha inceltirsen aram\u0131zda hi\u00e7bir sorun kalmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.\u201d diyebilirsiniz. Sizin iyili\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne emin oldu\u011funuz bir adam bu uyar\u0131y\u0131 dikkate alacakt\u0131r. \u0130\u015fte o zaman da ili\u015fkiniz tad\u0131ndan yenmez.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k sorunlar\u0131n\u0131z varsa, i\u015fin i\u00e7inden bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00e7\u0131kam\u0131yor fakat ayr\u0131lmay\u0131 da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyorsan\u0131z mutlaka bir uzmandan yard\u0131m alman\u0131z gerekiyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 boyutlara gidebilir. Maalesef toplumumuzda kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelen feci sonlara \u015fahit oluyoruz. Vazge\u00e7emiyorsan\u0131z, sevgilinizle ya da e\u015finizle beraber bir uzmana g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeniz hayr\u0131n\u0131za olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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