Erkekler ge\u00e7 (mi) olgunla\u015f\u0131yor
\n<\/b>Toplumda genelde erke\u011fin olgun dolay\u0131s\u0131yla ya\u015f\u00e7a daha b\u00fcy\u00fck, kad\u0131n\u0131n da ayn\u0131 oranda gen\u00e7 olmas\u0131n\u0131n ideal oldu\u011fu fikri hakim. \u0130ngiltere\u2019de yap\u0131lan bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya g\u00f6re; erke\u011fin kad\u0131ndan 52 ay b\u00fcy\u00fck olmas\u0131 ili\u015fki i\u00e7in idealken, T\u00fcrk uzmanlar ya\u015f aral\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n 5-10 olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor. Oysa g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde ilerleyen evlenme ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 da g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne al\u0131rsak bu durumda kad\u0131n\u0131n 30 iken erke\u011fin 35-40 ya\u015f\u0131nda olmas\u0131 gerekiyor. Peki bu t\u00fcr ili\u015fkiler nas\u0131l y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcyor? \u201cEvlilik i\u00e7in ideal ya\u015f konusunun, sadece takvim ya\u015f\u0131 olarak de\u011ferlendirilmemesi gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her iki cinse atfedilen yani kad\u0131n ya da erkek olmaya y\u00f6nelik beklentiler ile sorumluluklar k\u00fclt\u00fcrden k\u00fclt\u00fcre de\u011fi\u015fkenlik g\u00f6steriyor\u201d diyen Psk. Knudsen, s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcyor: \u201cBu durumu T\u00fcrk k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnde ele al\u0131rsak; kad\u0131nlardan beklenti a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131kl\u0131 olarak eve, e\u015f olmaya dair, \u00e7ocuklarla ilgili neredeyse t\u00fcm sorumluluklar\u0131 i\u00e7ermenin yan\u0131 s\u0131ra e\u011fer \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsa beraberinde para kazanman\u0131n da getirdi\u011fi t\u00fcm y\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fcl\u00fckleri kapsarken, erkekten beklenilen neredeyse sadece para kazanma ve evin ge\u00e7indirilmesi ile s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 tutulabiliyor. Oysa temel sorun, sorumluluklar\u0131 do\u011fru bir \u015fekilde, ili\u015fki i\u00e7erisinde adil ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir payla\u015f\u0131mla y\u00fcr\u00fctebilecek olgunlukta olmakla yak\u0131ndan ilgili. Erkeklerin \u00e7ocukluktan itibaren biraz daha az sorumluluk alarak yeti\u015ftirildi\u011fi k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde daha ge\u00e7 olgunla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6zlemleniyor ve buna dair bir sonu\u00e7 \u00e7\u0131karman\u0131n pek de yanl\u0131\u015f bir de\u011ferlendirme olmayaca\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

K\u0131sacas\u0131 T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de, Bat\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ili\u015fki i\u00e7erisinde erkek ve kad\u0131n aras\u0131nda ya\u015f fark\u0131 de\u011ferlendirilmesi yap\u0131l\u0131rken, \u00f6zellikle bu fakt\u00f6r\u00fcn dikkate al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclebiliyor. Di\u011fer taraftan \u00e7a\u011f\u0131m\u0131z a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan de\u011ferlendirirsek, insan \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn uzam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 ve hayattan beklentilerin sadece evlilik kurma \u00fczerine olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu yeni d\u00fcnya, \u00f6zellikle b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde erken ya\u015fta evlenme meselesini de de\u011fi\u015ftiriyor. E\u011fitim alma s\u00fcrelerinin uzam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131, kariyere odaklanma, bireyselle\u015fme ve para kazanarak gelece\u011fi garanti alt\u0131na alma gibi fakt\u00f6rler de evlenme ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ileriye \u00e7ekiyor.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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