S\u00fcrekli \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor ya da i\u015finizi mi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsunuz? Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u015fe olan ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne mi ge\u00e7ti?”Merhaba. Ad\u0131m J.C. Ben bir i\u015fkoli\u011fim.”<\/p>\n

ABD’nin Florida eyaletinde ya\u015fayan J.C., tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir grup insan\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde kalk\u0131p bunlar\u0131 s\u00f6yleyebilmenin b\u00fcy\u00fck cesaret gerektirdi\u011fini belirtiyor.<\/p>\n

Tam ad\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015fmak istemeyen J.C., “Anonim \u0130\u015fkolikler”in toplant\u0131lar\u0131na kat\u0131lmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, art\u0131k hi\u00e7bir \u015feyle ba\u015f edemez haldeymi\u015f.<\/p>\n

49 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki sa\u011fl\u0131k \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan\u0131 hem alkol ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 hem de yeme bozuklu\u011funu alt edebilmi\u015f ama bu defa i\u015fine olan ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131, hayal etti\u011fi huzurlu hayata kavu\u015fmas\u0131na engel olmu\u015f.<\/p>\n

J.C., sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bir anda nas\u0131l \u00e7\u00f6kt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc \u015fu s\u00f6zlerle anlat\u0131yor:<\/p>\n

“S\u00fcrekli i\u015fimle ilgili tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131yd\u0131m. Anlad\u0131m ki i\u015fimi, kendimden, duygular\u0131mdan ve korkular\u0131mdan ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in kullan\u0131yordum.<\/p>\n

“Sa\u00e7lar\u0131m y\u00f6netici pozisyona gelmemden sadece 3 ay sonra erkenden beyazlad\u0131. Adrenal yorgunluk (stres sonucu b\u00f6brek \u00fcst\u00fc bezlerinin \u00e7al\u0131\u015famaz hale gelmesi) ve kalp rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yordum.”<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fkolik olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong><\/p>\n

ABD’de 1980’li y\u0131llarda kurulan Anonim \u0130\u015fkolikler, Anonim Alkolikler gibi, 12 ad\u0131mdan olu\u015fan bir tedavi plan\u0131 izliyor. \u0130ngiltere ‘den Japonya’ya ve Arjantin’e kadar \u00e7ok say\u0131da \u00fclkede 100’den fazla \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma grubu bulunuyor.<\/p>\n

Bu ki\u015filer Skype ya da telefon arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131yla da toplant\u0131lara kat\u0131labiliyor.<\/p>\n

Peki i\u015fkolik olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z? E\u011fer i\u015fkolikseniz, kimden nas\u0131l yard\u0131m isteyebilirsiniz?<\/p>\n

Hollanda\u00a0\u00dcniversitesi Psikoloji B\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc \u00d6\u011fretim \u00dcyesi Profes\u00f6r Wilmar Schaufeli’nin i\u015fkolikler i\u00e7in yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 tan\u0131m \u015fu:<\/p>\n

“D\u00fcrt\u00fcsel olarak kendini tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 bir \u015fekilde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya veren ki\u015fi. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma ile tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n birle\u015fimi.”<\/p>\n

Schaufeli’ye g\u00f6re, Anonim Alkolikler’in grup toplant\u0131lar\u0131 bir\u00e7ok insana iyi geliyor \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc yaln\u0131z olmad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 hissediyorlar. Hollandal\u0131 psikolog, “Bu t\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015f bozukluklar\u0131 ve ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klarda b\u00f6yle hissetmek \u00f6nemli” diyor.<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fkolikler i\u00e7in bir alternatif de, profesyonel bir uzmandan terapi almak.<\/p>\n

Biri nas\u0131l i\u015fkolik hale gelir? Oxford Geli\u015fim Merkezi’nden Klinik Psikolog Dr. Claudia Herbert, s\u0131k s\u0131k i\u015fkoliklerle \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor ve m\u00fc\u015fterilerinin \u00e7o\u011funda ba\u015fka zihinsel rahats\u0131zl\u0131klar da oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor ve bunlardan baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 “depresyon, hayat\u0131n ama\u00e7s\u0131z oldu\u011funu hissetme, anksiyete ve ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar” olarak s\u0131ral\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

Herbert, hayat\u0131n\u0131n erken d\u00f6nemlerinde iki ya da \u00fc\u00e7 ki\u015finin i\u015fini tek ba\u015f\u0131na \u00fcstlenmek zorunda kalanlar\u0131n, bunu i\u015fkolikli\u011fe d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrebildi\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

Bir ba\u015fka neden ise erken ya\u015flarda ailelerinin “daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 yapmalar\u0131” i\u00e7in onlara s\u00fcrekli bask\u0131 yapm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131:<\/p>\n

“\u00c7ocukken kim olduklar\u0131ndan \u00e7ok neyi ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funa ikna edilmi\u015f olan ki\u015filerde, i\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ihtimali daha y\u00fcksek.”<\/p>\n

‘\u00c7ok i\u015f e\u015fittir \u00e7ok terfi’ d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi<\/p>\n

Uzmanlara g\u00f6re, ki\u015finin i\u015fkoli\u011fe d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fme ihtimali, yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u015fe g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fiyor. \u00dcst pozisyonlarda olanlar ve kendi i\u015fini yapanlar i\u00e7in bu risk daha fazla.<\/p>\n

Schaufeli, daha fazla i\u015f yapman\u0131n daha \u00e7ok para ya da terfi getirece\u011fine inanan bu ki\u015filerin, davran\u0131\u015f bozuklu\u011fu ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu zaman fark etmedi\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015f kolikler i\u00e7in art\u0131k bir rehabilitasyon merkezi de var.2012’de ilk kez Anonim \u0130\u015f kolikler’in d\u00fcnyas\u0131na ad\u0131m atan J.C., \u015fimdi bu kurulu\u015fun g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131ndan biri:<\/p>\n

“\u0130nsanlarla zaman ge\u00e7irmek ve e\u011flenmek i\u00e7in daha fazla zaman\u0131m var art\u0131k. Asl\u0131nda ayn\u0131 i\u015fi yap\u0131yorum ama d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131m\u0131 ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirdi\u011fimde, bir \u015feyleri idare etmek \u00e7ok daha kolay oldu.<\/p>\n

“Art\u0131k g\u00fcnl\u00fck \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma saatlerime s\u0131n\u0131rlar koyuyorum.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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